Episode Highlights:

• Recap with Veronica Moya: We dive into raising resilient kids, her brilliant "toothbrushing rule," and share a short, live meditation exercise you can experience right inside the episode.

• The Framework: For every single phase of personal growth, we look at the phase, the core question, and what it solves and tracks in your day.

• The First Three Steps: We explore the Why (Enneagram motivation), the What (your default behavior), and the Where (your physical self-observation clues).

Step 3: The WHERE Guide (Clue ➡ What it Solves ➡ The Interrupter)

• Type 1: When a tight jaw or stiff shoulders trigger perfectionism, exhale forcefully, drop your shoulders, and open your jaw slightly to break the tension.

• Type 2: When a hollow pulling sensation in your chest triggers people-pleasing, place your right hand over your chest and take two slow, grounding breaths.

• Type 3: When shallow breathing and a tight chest trigger frantic busywork, lean back, place your hands flat in your lap, and take a deep belly breath.

• Type 4: When a sinking stomach pit triggers emotional procrastination, sit up perfectly straight, roll your shoulders back, and look at the ceiling for five seconds.

• Type 5: When a numb forehead bunker triggers data hoarding, stomp both feet firmly on the floor and explicitly label three physical objects around you.

• Type 6: When a vibrating chest and anxiety trigger analysis paralysis, double your exhalation time by blowing air out slowly through tightly pursed lips.

• Type 7: When a twitchy, restless buzz in your limbs triggers high-dopamine distractions, squeeze both fists together hard for five seconds, then drop them flat.

• Type 8: When a wave of intense heat triggers bulldozing arguments, intentionally widen your eyes to expand your visual field and uncouple your gaze from the trigger.

• Type 9: When a heavy mental fog and sudden fatigue trigger a comfort-zone escape, stand up immediately, stretch your arms high, and take a sharp inhale.

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Email: Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

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So Let me leave you with this ...Until next time and as always

I'm Rooting for you💕

Key Topics Covered

Mindfulness & Childhood Development

• Mental Hygiene: Why daily meditation for children is exactly like brushing your teeth—it's a small habit that completely helps them refocus.

• A Decade of Data: Insights Veronica gained from working organically with thousands of kids over the span of 10+ years.

• The Long-Term Impact: How planting the seeds of mindfulness early helps the next generation build unstoppable self-trust.

• Guided Meditation: A short, live breathing and presence exercise designed for both parents and kids to experience together.

• Enneagram Coaching In Action: A deep dive into Veronica’s assessment sheets to look at how core motivations and blind spots shape our daily lives.

1. Action Steps & Resources

• Support the Mission: To find information on how to support Veronica’s incredible nonprofit work, pop on over to her website using the direct link below!

• Connect with Veronica: https://veronicamoya.com/

• Enjoyed the Episode? Leave us a quick review on your favorite podcast app and let us know your biggest takeaway from today's chat!

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Michelle Connolly shares a deeply personal health update before pivoting into a practical Enneagram teaching on motivation versus behavior. She explains how core fears, desires, and values shape what people do, then closes by showing how curiosity can interrupt conflict and improve relationships.

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Get in touch Michelle

Free Enneagram assessment ⁠https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/⁠

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

⁠https://calendar.app.google/RTu4pSag6PBBLWe97⁠

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Timestamps

00:00 — Personal health update: fatigue, dizziness, and a hemoglobin crisis
03:27 — Hospital admission, blood transfusion, and iron infusion
04:56 — Why listening to your body matters before things get worse
05:53 — Introducing motivation versus behavior through the Enneagram
06:23 — What motivation means and how it drives action
07:22 — Intrinsic motivation versus extrinsic motivation
08:20 — Motivation is rarely laziness; it may point to a systemic barrier
09:10 — Shared values across Enneagram types
09:47 — Defining behavior as observable action and response
10:37 — The triads and how Enneagram types process emotion
12:01 — Motivation is the “why” and behavior is the “what”
15:31 — Type 1: integrity, self-discipline, and fear of being wrong
16:21 — Type 2: helping as a feedback loop for feeling needed
17:36 — Type 3: achievement, productivity, and worth
19:19 — Type 4: authenticity, uniqueness, and identity loops
21:17 — Type 5: energy conservation and protective boundaries
22:49 — Type 6: safety-seeking, reassurance, and vigilance
24:32 — Type 7: fulfillment, freedom, and constant movement
26:03 — Type 8: self-reliance, control, and assertive autonomy
27:58 — Type 9: peacekeeping, numbing, and avoiding conflict
29:57 — Practical growth steps for changing reactive patterns
31:51 — Quick healthy-path traits for all nine types
33:31 — Curiosity as a practice for relationships and self-awareness
35:18 — Asking what story you’re telling yourself about someone’s behavior
38:17 — Why curiosity can break conflict cycles and reduce labeling
39:45 — What each type may be protecting itself from
41:13 — Benefits of curiosity: empathy, problem-solving, and reduced defensiveness
42:28 — Closing takeaways and invitation to revisit the episode
43:43 — Teaser for the next episode with guest Veronica Moya

Michelle connects these patterns to Enneagram-based tendencies and describes how they show up in daily life. With specific example of self-care failing when it does not address the underlying mental script.

This Week's Challenge: Listen closely to the 9 profiles, identify the one that sounds most like your inner voice, and commit to its corresponding micro-action over the next 48 hours.

Remember: if it feels uncomfortable or unnatural at first, that means it’s working.

Until Next time... I'm Rooting for you💕

Get connected today

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Free 30 min meet and greet

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Key topics

• Michelle Connolly explains the show’s new continuous episode format and notes this is episode 67.

• She introduces burnout as a mental and emotional exhaustion problem, not just physical fatigue.

• nine burnout patterns tied to default coping responses:

  • Perfectionist

  • People-pleasing

  • Performance

  • Emotional tidal wave

  • Guarded battery

  • Disaster rehearsal

  • Chronic distraction

  • Armor

  • Artificial peace

Timestamps

00:00 - New episode format and why the show is moving away from seasons
01:45 - Episode 67 and the shift toward more consistent content
02:27 - Why today’s topic moves from theory to practical burnout relief
03:16 - A personal self-care attempt interrupted by a medical setback
05:08 - Burnout as deep mental exhaustion, not just physical fatigue
06:32 - The real problem is how the mind handles the load
07:17 - Why even an empty schedule can feel unbearable
08:50 - Start by examining your internal pressure, not your calendar
09:20 - The perfectionist and people-pleasing traps
10:23 - The performance trap and the link to identity and output
11:15 - Emotional tidal waves and guarding scarce energy
12:08 - Disaster rehearsal, chronic distraction, armor, and artificial peace
13:39 - Breaking exhaustion loops with small experiments
14:03 - The 48-hour master experiment for each burnout profile
17:08 - Why true self-care is stepping off the treadmill
17:58 - Choose one default setting and test its matching practice
18:53 - Sharing your burnout pattern and following the show
19:14 - Podcast disclaimer and where to find Michelle

In this episode of Core Motivations, Michelle takes a personal look at self-care, mental health, and the importance of recognizing when we’re running on empty. She shares her own realization that constantly putting people, responsibilities, schedules, and daily demands first can leave little—or nothing—for ourselves.

Self-care isn't simply about taking a break or doing something relaxing. It can mean recognizing our limits, protecting our energy, setting boundaries, getting the rest we need, and making intentional space to refuel physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Michelle also shares how her faith has shaped her understanding of self-care, reflecting on examples of Jesus intentionally making space for solitude, prayer, physical rest, and stepping away—even when there were still needs and responsibilities waiting.

And sometimes, practicing self-care means making an actual change.

For Michelle, that means moving Core Motivations to an every-other-week schedule—not because she is stepping away, but because she wants to practice what she talks about and create the space to continue showing up intentionally.

• Why we so easily put everyone and everything else before ourselves

• What happens when we continually operate with an empty tank

• The connection between self-care and mental health

• How exhaustion can affect our emotions, decisions, relationships, and ability to cope with stress

• Why self-care isn't always about doing what feels good

• The importance of rest, solitude, boundaries, and spiritual renewal

• Why we don't have to wait until everything is finished before we take care of ourselves

• Learning to recognize when we need to pause, refocus, and recharge

• Why slowing down isn't the same as quitting

• The importance of practicing what we preach

A question to take with you:

What if the question isn't, “What more can I do?”

What if the question is, “What do I need?”

Sometimes self-care means slowing down—not because we're giving up, but because we're taking care of the person who has to keep going.

A reminder from Michelle:

Self-care isn't about escaping your life. It's about taking care of yourself so you can actually be present for it.

As always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Get connected today

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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A student talks back. Another shuts down. One refuses to participate. Another constantly challenges authority. It's easy to make assumptions about what we're seeing—but what if we became curious about what might be happening underneath?

In this episode, Michelle Connolly explores the connection between behavior, motivation, and the Enneagram, looking at how understanding the deeper motivations behind our actions can change the way we respond to them.

The Enneagram isn't about labeling students or trying to determine everyone's type. Instead, it can give educators another way to look at the people in front of them—to recognize that the same behavior can come from very different motivations, fears, needs, and experiences.

Turning back to the lens of Teachers How your own patterns and triggers influence the way we interpret student behavior? What happens when a student's actions push one of our buttons? And how can self-awareness help us interrupt the reaction cycle and respond more intentionally?

Together, we explore what happens when we move from:

Behavior → Interpretation → Motivation → Awareness → Choice → Response

Because understanding someone's behavior doesn't mean excusing it. We can hold boundaries, maintain expectations, and still become curious about the person behind the behavior.

As always... I'm Rooting for you 💕

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Make sure to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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Teacher Resource

https://www.kinf.org/programs/national-network

00:00 Introduction to the episode and its focus on classroom dynamics

01:02 The challenge of managing diverse student behaviors

02:15 Using the Enneagram to understand underlying motivations

03:22 The importance of curiosity over judgment in behavior analysis

04:52 Behavior versus motivation: pulling back the curtain

06:30 How fears and needs influence student behavior

07:36 Responding with curiosity and boundaries

09:04 Examples of understanding motivations behind behaviors

11:33 The cycle of classroom interactions and misunderstandings

13:02 The role of teacher triggers and self-awareness

14:18 Creating space for choice through self-awareness

15:27 Practical takeaways for teachers and non-teachers alike

17:20 The importance of curiosity in the new school year

18:16 Closing thoughts and contact information

Pain is real. What happened matters. But the question becomes:

“You may not get to choose what happened, but you do get to choose what it means and what you do next.”

Key topics

• Michelle defines the difference between genuine victimization and a victim mindset, emphasizing that this episode is not dismissing trauma or real harm.

• In this episode, she explains how a victim mindset can become entangled with identity through blame, helplessness, and a rejection of problem-solving.

• She shares that painful experiences like loss, betrayal, disappointment, failure, and unexpected change are universal, but they do not have to become the whole story.

• Michelle introduces the central question: what meaning am I going to give this experience?

• She contrasts the victim mindset, which asks what happened to me, with the hero mindset, which asks what am I going to do with what happened to me?

• In this episode, she stresses that hero mindset is not toxic positivity, instant forgiveness, or pretending the pain did not matter.

• She frames hardship as a possible catalyst for self-awareness, boundaries, courage, compassion, resilience, and wisdom. Explaining agency as the belief that you can influence your life through your choices, responses, actions, and mindset.

• In closing, she encourages listeners to stop asking why me and start asking what now, reminding them that the past is part of the story but does not get the final word.

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All the things

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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Email-Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

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Additional Resources

The Willow Group–The Victim to Warrior Podcast | iHeart

Resources for Survivors of Violence, Disasters, and Other Traumatic Experiences

National Domestic Violence Hotline Call 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788 for 24/7 confidential support.

National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): Call 1-800-656-4673 for free, confidential support any time.

VictimConnect: Call or text 1-855-484-2846 to find resources and referrals for all types of crime.

When Victimhood Becomes an IdentityPhoenix Trauma Center & Dr Scott Giacomuccihttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-6NGvkEsog
Timestamps

00:00 - Welcome to the show and today’s real talk topic
00:48 - Why this episode is about making meaning from pain
01:55 - Clarifying victim mindset versus being a victim
03:57 - Michelle’s personal experience with abuse and trauma
05:10 - What a victim mindset looks like in practice
07:17 - Painful chapters like loss, betrayal, and rejection
09:55 - Pain is part of the story, not the whole story
11:03 - The question of meaning: what does this experience mean
12:22 - Pain can become an invitation for growth and boundaries
13:44 - Victim mindset versus hero mindset
15:05 - The hero questions that create forward movement
16:30 - Why hero mindset is not fake positivity
18:02 - When accountability and justice still matter
18:54 - How setbacks reveal character in the story
20:18 - The shift from powerless to purposeful
21:29 - “This is who I am now” versus “I am still writing”
22:25 - Reclaiming agency after hurt and disappointment
24:29 - Agency is not control, but it is choice
25:58 - What can I do from where I am
27:17 - Responsibility without self-blame
28:49 - Small choices that move you from victim to hero
30:03 - Agency means the past does not get the final word
30:58 - Closing reminders, disclaimer, and listener call to action
32:19 - Where to find Michelle and how to stay connected

In this episode, Michelle Connolly explores the messy middle between intention and action and why having a strong intention doesn't necessarily mean we have a strategy for executing it.

We'll look at the psychology of intent versus action, why rigid time-blocking can set us up for frustration, and how learning to schedule our energy instead of simply scheduling our time can help us work with ourselves rather than against ourselves.

Michelle also introduces the idea of The Intention Trap—the cycle of creating ambitious plans, falling short when life gets messy, and then responding with guilt or self-criticism instead of curiosity and adjustment.

You'll learn how to create an energy map, build a more flexible weekly schedule, create a minimum viable day when your original plan isn't realistic, and use a simple reset approach when your week inevitably goes off the rails.

Because intentional living isn't about creating the perfect plan.

It's about knowing what matters, creating strategies that support it, and learning how to come back to it when life gets messy.

A Question to Consider

Where are you currently scheduling your intentions rather than your actual energy?

And when your week doesn't go according to plan, ask yourself:

“What matters now, and what's my next best step?”

As Always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Connect with Michelle

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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IMPACT RESET

I- Identity the intention - What did I actually want to accomplish?

M- Meet reality- What is actually happening right now, what should change?
P- Pinpoint the priority-What matters most now pick 1-3 things?
A- Adjust the strategy- Do I need to change the time approach, environment or even expectations?

C -Check my energy- do i have energy for this task right now. What task does my current energy match?

T -Take the next step- what the smallest action I can take right now?

4 = High energy — productive and engaged

3 = Moderate energy — functioning well but not at your peak2 = Low energy — tired, distracted, or easily overwhelmed1 = Very low energy — depleted, mentally or physically exhausted
Step 3: Notice how you feel

Next to each rating, write a few words describing how you usually feel.

For example: You're looking for patterns.

8–10 AM | 5 | Focused, creative, motivated

1–3 PM | 2 | Sluggish, distracted, tired

Step 4- Match your tasks to your energy, Build your week around your energy to restore

High Energy- Important work-creative

Low Energy-Routine tasks-errands

Time Stamp

00:00 Introduction and episode overview

01:31 The importance of gratitude and mindfulness

02:47 The reality of weekly planning and energy levels

04:34Why rigid time blocking sets you up for failure

05:16 Understanding the psychology of intent versus action

06:41 The gap between desire and behavior

08:13 Planning based on your actual self, not ideal self

10:09 The intention trap and the messy middle

11:53 The role of environment and willpower

13:29 Matching tasks to energy levels

15:06 The importance of awareness and self-compassion

17:13 The weekly reset and realignment

20:07 Energy mapping and identifying energy drains and boosters

23:35 The impact reset framework (impact, meet reality, prioritize, adjust, check, take)

Today, Michelle is joined by Aaron Hendon—an acclaimed real estate leader, keynote speaker, and author—for a candid conversation about challenging conventional wisdom and discovering how gratitude can become a catalyst for extraordinary personal growth.

Drawing from his upcoming book, How to Live a Grateful Life in an F'd Up World, Aaron shares how reframing adversity can help us build resilience, develop a healthier mindset, and create lasting change. Together, Michelle and Aaron explore practical strategies for moving beyond reactive living, cultivating gratitude in the midst of life's challenges, and embracing the personal agency we all have to shape meaningful outcomes.

You'll also get a front-row seat to a live Enneagram typing session as Michelle guides Aaron through the process, offering a fascinating look at how self-awareness can deepen leadership, strengthen relationships, and accelerate personal transformation.

As Always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Get Connected Today

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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Contact through email

Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

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Linkedin

www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-connolly-92016330a

https://www.instagram.com/aaronhendon_themindfulceo/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronhendon/

Key Topics

• Aaron's journey to becoming a mindful leader and entrepreneur

• Using mindfulness and gratitude to build resilience and reduce stress

• Breaking free from hustle culture through intentional living

• Finding purpose by aligning with your true values

• The five steps to cultivating lasting gratitude

• A live Enneagram typing session and insights into personality patterns

• Holding both grief and gratitude as a path to growth

• Practical ways to practice mindfulness in everyday life
  

00:00 - Introducing Aaron Hendon and his inspiring journey
02:46 - From bakery to mindfulness, Aaron’s transition into real estate
03:26 - Landmark Forum: Breaking limitations and finding freedom
05:22 - Using mindfulness meditation for sales success
06:13 - Slaying hustle culture one mindful moment at a time
08:37 - The connection between mindfulness and living in alignment with your true north
10:38 - Developing self-agency through kindness and acceptance
11:32 - The role of meditation as a tool for mindful living
13:08 - How mindful communication enhances relationships and work performance
16:12 - Aaron’s mission: empowering a million people to meditate
18:03 - The concept of agency: The ability for self-determination
22:04 - Holding grief and gratitude simultaneously for emotional resilience
25:02 - The five A’s of gratitude: awareness, allowance, acceptance, appreciation, attitude
28:32 - The power of language and experiencing reality without resistance
32:14 - Curiosity and compassion in understanding others’ perspectives
35:11 - How mindfulness influences leadership and team dynamics
37:26 - True north as a metaphor for life purpose
39:29 - Introduction to the Enneagram as a tool for self-discovery
45:04 - Exploring emotional responses through the gut, heart, and head triads
52:45 - Understanding and working through self-limiting beliefs
55:47 - The importance of the stance and how we move through the world
61:50 - The significance of developing a self-awareness map for behavior and choices
70:29 - Recognizing your default settings and how to shift toward growth
78:55 - Final takeaway: The power of self-kindness and compassion

What if the way you respond to life’s challenges could become the doorway to greater resilience, purpose, and personal growth?

Get ready to Join Michelle Connolly, certified Enneagram and marriage coach, on Core Motivations this coming Monday as she welcomes Aaron Hendon—acclaimed real estate leader, keynote speaker, and author—for a powerful conversation about mindset, gratitude, leadership, and the deeper motivations that shape who we become.

In this thought-provoking episode, Aaron shares insights from his upcoming book, How to Live a Grateful Life in an F'd Up World, and explores how we can challenge conventional wisdom, reframe adversity, and create meaningful change in our lives. He reveals why resilience isn’t just a popular concept—it’s a skill we can develop by intentionally rewiring the way we think, respond, and engage with the world around us.

Michelle and Aaron discuss practical strategies for moving beyond reactive living, cultivating gratitude during difficult seasons, and recognizing the personal agency we each have to create the results we desire.

This episode also features a special live Enneagram typing session, offering a unique look at how self-awareness can deepen leadership, improve relationships, and unlock personal transformation.

Whether you’re an entrepreneur, leader, coach, or someone seeking more clarity and purpose, this conversation offers practical tools and meaningful insights you can begin applying immediately.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• How gratitude can transform your perspective during challenging times

• Why resilience is a skill anyone can develop

• How to move from reacting to intentionally creating your life

• The connection between self-awareness and effective leadership

• How the Enneagram can reveal deeper motivations and patterns

Tune in to Core Motivations for this inspiring conversation with Aaron Hendon and discover how understanding what truly drives you can help you live and lead with greater intention.

Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who is ready to unlock their untapped potential.

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Main Topics Covered:

• The importance of pausing and assessing before rushing into action

• Scientific benefits of slow movement for health and stress reduction

• Lessons learned from personal injury about purpose and decision-making

• The concept of waiting well and trusting the timing of life

• Practical tips for implementing slow, purposeful moves in daily routines

Get connected today

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Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome and episode overview: lessons from a dryer ball incident
00:28 – The story begins: an unexpectedly eventful laundry day
01:16 – The dryer ball escapes, leading to humorous yet painful consequences
02:24 – The fall, injury, and realization of the importance of timing
03:45 – How rushing can cause unnecessary stress and injury
04:32 – The importance of stopping, surveying, and making a plan
05:48 – Scientific benefits of slow movement for physical and mental health
07:09 – The power of intentional pacing in everyday life
08:44 – Recognizing the value in waiting and not rushing decisions
10:00 – The significance of waiting well and trusting divine timing
11:28 – Key lessons: moving with purpose helps reduce stress and prevent chaos
12:30 – Teaching others through example: pause, process, proceed
13:26 – The benefits of mindful movement and slowing down
15:50 – How slow, deliberate movement can lower cortisol and improve focus
17:36 – Waiting as a purposeful act: patience can bring bigger rewards
18:54 – Biblical insights on waiting and trusting divine timing
20:18 – Personal reflections: injury as a lesson to slow down
21:09 – Practical takeaway: pause, assess, plan, and move intentionally
22:14 – Final thoughts: embracing the calm in a hurried world
23:06 – Connecting with Michelle: where to find her online
23:35 – Closing encouragement: share, follow, and root for your growth

Enneagram is designed to reveal the patterns you already live in, not put you in a box. The real value comes from using it as a tool for self-awareness, emotional flexibility, and intentional growth. She also introduces helpful concepts like the three centers of intelligence, instinctual variants, and levels of development to show how much depth the Enneagram really has.

Call to action

Take the Enneagram assessment, and book a free 30-minute meet and greet to explore coaching sessions for deeper insight and personal growth. “Education is the key for self-liberation.”

As always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Connect with Michelle

Email

⁠Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com⁠

Instagram

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Youtube

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: Clarifying what the episode covers and why it matters01:01 - How the Enneagram is misunderstood as just another personality test02:48 - The core purpose of the Enneagram: understanding motivation and defense patterns05:02 - Limitations of Enneagram assessments and their accuracy07:54 - The constancy of your core type and how behavior expression evolves with growth11:12 - Addressing myth: You have only one core type, not multiple13:39 - Why the Enneagram explains strategies behind actions, not outward traits15:14 - Clarifying that type movement in stress doesn't mean changing your core type17:10 - Your wing is limited to adjacent types; misconceptions about multiple wings20:43 - Debunking hierarchy myths: All types are equally valuable and capable of success23:18 - The true purpose: fostering self-awareness and inner understanding24:36 - Recognizing unconscious patterns to move beyond autopilot reactions26:51 - Exploring the nuanced aspects: stress paths, wings, centers of intelligence, and levels of development29:17 - The three centers: gut, heart, and head types and their responses to the world30:48 - The role of instinctual variants: self-preservation, social, and one-to-one31:18 - Levels of development: how self-awareness shifts expression within the same type32:48 - Self-awareness as the key to unlocking healthier behaviors and deeper self-knowledge34:04 - Practical steps: using assessments, coaching, and continued learning for growth35:35 - Invitation for coaching and personalized Enneagram explorations to deepen your journey36:47 - Final reminder: The Enneagram reveals the box you're living in, granting freedom to move beyond it38:12 - Closing encouragement: Share, subscribe, and connect to continue your self-awareness journey

Enneagram is designed to reveal the patterns you already live in, not put you in a box. The real value comes from using it as a tool for self-awareness, emotional flexibility, and intentional growth. She also introduces helpful concepts like the three centers of intelligence, instinctual variants, and levels of development to show how much depth the Enneagram really has.

Call to action

Take the Enneagram assessment, and book a free 30-minute meet and greet to explore coaching sessions for deeper insight and personal growth. “Education is the key for self-liberation.”

As always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Connect with Michelle

Email

Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

Instagram

instagram.com/coremotivations_coach

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: Clarifying what the episode covers and why it matters
01:01 - How the Enneagram is misunderstood as just another personality test
02:48 - The core purpose of the Enneagram: understanding motivation and defense patterns
05:02 - Limitations of Enneagram assessments and their accuracy
07:54 - The constancy of your core type and how behavior expression evolves with growth
11:12 - Addressing myth: You have only one core type, not multiple
13:39 - Why the Enneagram explains strategies behind actions, not outward traits
15:14 - Clarifying that type movement in stress doesn't mean changing your core type
17:10 - Your wing is limited to adjacent types; misconceptions about multiple wings
20:43 - Debunking hierarchy myths: All types are equally valuable and capable of success
23:18 - The true purpose: fostering self-awareness and inner understanding
24:36 - Recognizing unconscious patterns to move beyond autopilot reactions
26:51 - Exploring the nuanced aspects: stress paths, wings, centers of intelligence, and levels of development
29:17 - The three centers: gut, heart, and head types and their responses to the world
30:48 - The role of instinctual variants: self-preservation, social, and one-to-one
31:18 - Levels of development: how self-awareness shifts expression within the same type
32:48 - Self-awareness as the key to unlocking healthier behaviors and deeper self-knowledge
34:04 - Practical steps: using assessments, coaching, and continued learning for growth
35:35 - Invitation for coaching and personalized Enneagram explorations to deepen your journey
36:47 - Final reminder: The Enneagram reveals the box you're living in, granting freedom to move beyond it
38:12 - Closing encouragement: Share, subscribe, and connect to continue your self-awareness journey

As always I am Rooting for you! 💕

In this episode:

• • Michelle shares her personal struggles with gratitude and the power of consistent practice

  • Insights from psychology on brain plasticity and learning processes

  • An overview of the nine Enneagram types, their core fears, desires, weaknesses, and longings

  • How to identify your core motivations through reflection and assessment

  • Tips for showing up authentically and confidently in daily life

  • The significance of self-compassion and reframing setbacks as growth opportunities

  • The importance of practicing gratitude and cultivating patience during life's challenges

  • How neuroplasticity supports learning and transformation over time

  • Deep dive into the Enneagram: understanding nine core types and their motivations

  • Overcoming imposter syndrome and building confidence through self-awareness

  • Practical self-care strategies: setting boundaries, managing stress, and nurturing your well-being

Ways to connect

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Free Enneagram assessment ⁠https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/⁠

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Contact through email

⁠Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com⁠

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Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome and introduction to self-care and gratitude practices
02:06 - Brain plasticity and the science of learning
04:22 - How the brain rewires with new habits and experiences
07:07 - Embracing the "under construction" process of personal growth
10:42 - Introduction to the Enneagram: nine personality types and core motivations
13:39 - The concept of being under construction and spiritual growth from scripture
16:45 - How the Enneagram helps describe human behavior and self-understanding
19:01 - Deep dive into each Enneagram type: core fears and motivations
24:39 - Core fears of Types 1 to 9 and their impact on behavior
34:02 - Encouragement to take the free Enneagram assessment
36:20 - The importance of showing up for yourself and self-practice strategies
41:22 - Final reminders on self-care, creating your toolbox, and mindset shifts

Discover how understanding history and practicing mindful relationship strategies can empower your personal growth and deepen your connections.

Join Michelle Connolly, a certified Enneagram and marriage coach, as she explores themes of self-awareness, relationship boundaries, and the significance of celebrating our nation's history.

Get connected TODAY

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

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Email

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Main Topics Covered:

1. The importance of reflecting on personal non-negotiables in relationships

2. How to identify and avoid red flags through deep questioning and self-awareness

3. Lessons from American history related to independence, expansion, and social progress

4. Practical tips for having difficult conversations and seeking understanding in relationships

How national celebrations like the Fourth of July can inspire personal and community reflection

Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to today’s episode and the power of reflection in relationships
02:20 - The significance of asking deep questions before committing
03:44 - The impact of toxic relationships and the importance of setting boundaries
06:56 - Personal story about moving and how ignoring non-negotiables can affect well-being
09:52 - The real impact of long commutes and making mindful lifestyle choices
11:40 - Strategies for understanding a potential partner through active listening and research
13:08 - The role of boundaries and non-negotiables in creating healthy relationships
15:07 - The historical context of July 4th and the American fight for independence
16:41 - Key moments leading to the Declaration of Independence and America's founding
20:22 - Insights into early American history, colonization, and revolutionary war
23:00 - Reflection on social progress, civil rights, and the importance of acknowledging history
24:41 - Celebrating America's 250th anniversary and future themes for 2026
26:24 - Personal traditions and ways to celebrate the Fourth of July today
27:22 - Practical safety tips and a reminder of the podcast’s purpose
28:19 - Final thoughts

In this episode, Michelle Connolly explores the complexities of romantic relationships, the significance of self-awareness, and honors fathers, especially around Father's Day. She encourages listeners to ask tough questions early in relationships and shares heartfelt stories about fatherhood, emphasizing growth and connection.

Key Topics Covered:

• The importance of asking hard questions before commitment and how to avoid settling

• The influence of senses, especially sight, in attraction and relationship decision-making

• Insights from the TV show Love is Blind about emotional connection removing sight

• Research on dating trends for 2026, including casual dating and the gender gap

• The value of weekly relationship check-ins and honest communication

• How to recognize red flags early and the importance of self-awareness

• The evolving roles of fathers and the history of Father's Day around the world

• Personal stories from Michelle’s interviews with her dad, husband, and other fathers about their experiences

• Encouragement for fathers to express love and intentionally nurture their relationships

Remember: Asking the tough questions early can save heartache later. Cultivate honest conversations, appreciate the role of fathers, and stay self-aware to build fulfilling relationships.

As always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Connect with Michelle

Instagram⁠ @coremotivaions_coach

⁠Email: Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com⁠

Resources

How to get help in an Abuse relationships

https://acesdv.org/ Arizona

https://www.thehotline.org/ Nation wide

Support for Dad’s

https://www.mmhla.org/articles/resources-for-fathers

Adoption local and nation wide

https://dcs.az.gov/foster

https://adoptuskids.org/

Mel Robbins, "Let them Therory" https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/

Luke 15, The Parable of the Prodigal Son https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2015%3A11-32&version=NIV

Show's to watch 🤷🏻‍♀️

Love is Blind (Netflix Show)⁠

Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Why asking tough questions matters in relationships
00:29 - Reflection on previous episode about compatibility and Enneagram insights
01:24 - Thoughts on celebrating Father's Day and its significance
02:20 - Common questions we overlook before entering serious relationships
03:23 - The role of honesty, transparency, and the concept of casual dating
05:19 - Insights from Love is Blind: Can love develop without sight?
08:12 - How couples on Love is Blind spend days in "pods" dating and engaging
10:11 - Future trends in dating intentions for 2026
11:44 - Gender differences in casual versus committed relationship pursuits
13:14 - Scientific understanding of human senses and their role in attraction
15:39 - How connecting through senses influences relationship choices
17:09 - The importance of self-awareness in understanding attraction and red flags
20:47 - Factors that influence relationship decisions: stability, love, validation
22:12 - The dangers of ignoring red flags and being blinded by attraction
23:28 - Questions to ask before committing and the importance of honesty
25:15 - Practical steps for improving current relationships and recognizing when to leave
26:39 - Personal stories: Michelle’s 18-year marriage journey and growth
29:57 - Advice on questions to ask before commitment: kids, money, hobbies, beliefs
33:09 - Establishing weekly check-ins to nurture ongoing connection
35:41 - Reflection: Knowing when to grow together or part ways
40:13 - Exploring the different types of dads and their roles
41:29 - The history and global celebration of Father’s Day
45:30 - Personal stories from fathers about what being a dad means to them
50:12 - Appreciation for fathers and encouragement to express love openly
51:05 - Final thoughts: The importance of continuous self-awareness and healthy boundaries
52:02 - Closing remarks

• The significance of knowing your Enneagram type and core motivations

• Compatibility pairings for Types 1-9, including opposites and similar types

• Common relationship challenges and how to address them

• Strategies to grow healthier and more balanced relationships based on Enneagram insights

• The role of triads (head, heart, gut) in relationship dynamics

• The importance of communication, boundary-setting, and mutual support

Remember, Enneagram pairings are less about finding perfect matches and more about understanding each other's fears and motivations. With awareness and intention, you can nurture authentic, supportive, and enriching relationships.

As always...I am Rooting for you! 💕

Get connected today
Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

https://calendar.app.google/RTu4pSag6PBBLWe97

Contact Michelle through email

Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

Instagram

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Youtube

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Goodreads” The Enneagram, Relationships, and Intimacy Quotes

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com
—https://www.truity.com/blog/shadow-partnerships-most-challenging-enneagram-pairings-and-why-they-work-anyway
Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to Enneagram types and their role in relationships
01:01 - How typing sessions deepen understanding of core motivations
02:19 - Compatibility of Type 9 with various types and groundings
03:44 - Overview of relationship strategies and growth paths
06:09 - Matchups: Type 1 and 7, opposites attracting through growth lines
09:53 - Compatibility of Type 2 with Type 9, and their supportive bond
12:18 - Matchup: Type 3 and 3, high-achievers forming power couples
14:14 - Deep connection: Type 4 and Type 2 bonding through vulnerability
18:12 - Compatibility challenges: Types 2 and 6, loyalty and trust issues
20:10 - Enthusiasts and helpers: Type 7 and 2, vibrant and joyful pairing
22:37 - Challenges: Type 8 and 9, balancing assertiveness and calmness
23:57 - Type 9 and 1, blending peace with conviction
26:23 - Common challenges: Criticality of Type 1 and the escapism of Type 7
29:42 - Passive-aggressive tendencies: Types 2 and 9 dynamics
32:54 - Mental exploration pairs: Types 5 and 7, depth and breadth
36:54 - Anxiety in conflict: Types 6 and 2, worry and reassurance
40:45 - The push-pull of Types 8 and 9 under stress
42:31 - Silent conflicts: Types 1 and 9, perfectionism vs. peace
44:00 - Creating balance: Mirroring and intentional support strategies
48:53 - Utilizing shared tools and celebrating successes together
54:54 - Maintaining structure for Types 5 and 7 during stress
58:51 - Overcoming emotional avoidance in Types 9 and 1
62:44 - Navigating emotional boundaries with Types 6 and 2
66:36 - Effective communication: Listening, clarity, and emotional honesty
68:35 - Structuring discussions: Safe spaces for meaningful dialogue
71:22 - Embracing strengths and weaknesses for authentic relationships
72:20 - Final thoughts:

Key Topics:

• The complexity of social anxiety and its physical and emotional symptoms

• Michelle’s experiences moving to Arizona and adapting to a new community

• The difference between everyday nervousness and social anxiety disorder

• Practical mindfulness techniques like the 3-3-3 rule for grounding during anxious moments

• The reality of making adult friends and building community as an introvert

• Personal reflections on attending social events with social anxiety and lessons learned

• The importance of authenticity, transparency, and self-compassion in social struggles

• Resources for social anxiety, including content creators and professional support

Thanks for joining this honest conversation about social anxiety. Remember, you're not alone, and support is available!

As always... I'm Rooting for you💕

Get connected TODAY
Michelle:

Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

Instagram

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Youtube

Michelle - YouTube

Free Enneagram assessment https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Don’t forget to connect with Michelle to help you with those results and book a (free) 30 min meet and greet

https://calendar.app.google/RTu4pSag6PBBLWe97

Groups

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/groups/az/glendale?category=anxiety

Meetup in your area

https://www.meetup.com/find/us--az--phoenix/social-anxiety/

Find help where you are

https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/

My fav content creator for navigating life with anxiety 

https://www.youtube.com/@morganevelyncook/videos

Counselor Search for your area

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction and overview of today's real talk on social anxiety00:29 - Michelle's experience of recording the podcast multiple times01:26 - Exploring social anxiety: fears around new places and people02:11 - Moving to Arizona and adjusting to a new environment03:11 - The challenges and beauty of desert life, including cactus facts07:13 - The importance of community and the difficulty of building it08:09 - The conflict between wanting community and fearing social situations09:10 - Personal struggles with social anxiety and depression10:08 - Recounting her experience with social events and attempts at forming friendships13:16 - The anxiety leading up to social events and her honest reflections14:17 - Attending the movie "The Devil Wears Prada 2" as a social activity15:07 - Defining social anxiety and its physical symptoms15:36 - The impact of social anxiety on daily routines and relationships16:43 - The internal conflict of avoiding or facing social situations17:42 - The experience of attending a candle and soap-making event19:38 - The social dynamics and uncomfortable moments during the activity21:29 - The lack of connection and feeling of being unseen22:56 - Understanding social anxiety through research and expert insights23:18 - The difference between normal nervousness and social anxiety disorder24:23 - The importance of coping skills and potential treatments25:39 - Reflecting on the desire for connection versus the reality of social fears27:13 - Introducing the 3-3-3 grounding technique for social anxiety28:12 - How to practice the 3-3-3 rule and its benefits29:41 - Encouragement to share coping strategies and support others31:03 - The idea of social anxiety groups and community resources32:21 - Managing overthinking and avoidance behaviors33:48 - Finding inspiration from content creator Morgan Evelyn Cook34:16 - The role of therapy, coaching, and healthy coping mechanisms34:46 - Closing thoughts and gratitude35:15 - Legal disclaimer and podcast purpose35:57 - Invitation to follow and share the podcast with others

Are you a dog lover or Enneagram enthusiast? Join Michelle Connolly as she creatively explores how various dog breeds mirror human Enneagram types, providing a fun, relatable look at personality traits through our furry friends. This episode is perfect for pet owners, Enneagram fans, and those seeking a playful perspective on self-awareness.

Until Next time—And as always

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Reach out to Michelle through the following ways

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Consider fostering find a place in your area

If your In Arizona

https://www.azhumane.org/foster/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=foster&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21887218078&gbraid=0AAAAADNISzgU-DJB-_fo-AuFSsYU6-tRb&gclid=CjwKCAjwuO_QBhAWEiwAIkVhUy6Ltjn0Df8SYNE_nFr3aH6Vy0TstlRaikaZFPxqDd2k8qTdViuTDBoCJaYQAvD_BwE

Adopt a dog or other pet

https://www.azhumane.org/adopt/?utm_source=googlegrants&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=grants_dog_adoptions&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22351221534&gbraid=0AAAAAD3OjuPKFkXwh2B-D6QHz0N9Ch6k1&gclid=CjwKCAjwuO_QBhAWEiwAIkVhU6NL5jfkIRHnlDk8e6WnwOZnK1X2hPeCcjJsDZ_eGHvtmT-aoto6hxoCQu0QAvD_BwE

Rescue Dog by Train

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5aSDC-wtylI

Main Topics:

• Dogs as metaphors for Enneagram types

• Traits and behaviors of specific dog breeds linked to human personalities

• Lighthearted insights into canine and human behavior

• The importance of understanding and celebrating personality differences

• Upcoming discussions on cats and other pets' Enneagram types

• Michelle introduces the idea of matching dog breeds to Enneagram types for fun and insight

• Border Collies as perfectionists (Type 1) and their intelligence and stamina

• Golden Retrievers as caring helpers (Type 2), their sensitivity, and conflict resolution skills

• Australian Shepherds representing the ambitious achievers (Type 3) with their energy and loyalty

• Shih Tzus exemplifying individualists (Type 4), their expressive personalities, and love for human interaction

• Chow Chows as independent investigators (Type 5), their aloof nature and self-reliance

• Chihuahuas portraying loyalists (Type 6), their vigilance and fearless attitude

• Corgis embodying energetic enthusiasts (Type 7), their playful and bossy nature

• Doberman Pinschers as challengers (Type 8), their confidence and protectiveness

• Pugs as peacemakers (Type 9), their calm, affectionate nature, and love for comfort

• The significance of understanding personality types in pet ownership and personal growth

In this episode:Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to pet Enneagram types and episode overview0:24 - The playful concept of dogs representing human Enneagram types1:19 - Border Collies as Type 1 perfectionists2:13 - Golden Retrievers as empathetic Type 2 helpers2:56 - Struggles and traits of Golden Retrievers5:22 - Australian Shepherds as energetic Type 3 achievers6:43 - Shih Tzus embodying expressive Type 4 individuals8:17 - Chow Chows as independent Type 5 detectives9:42 - Chihuahuas as loyal Type 6 watchdogs11:09 - Corgis as lively Type 7 enthusiasts13:00 - Doberman Pinschers representing confident Type 8 challenges14:29 - Pugs as gentle Type 9 peacemakers15:57 - Final thoughts

In this episode, Michelle shares her reflections on the past year and offers practical advice on how to embrace change daily.

Discover powerful insights on personal growth, the importance of self-awareness, and how shifting from static to transformative movement can change your life.

As Always...I'm Rooting for you 💕

Key Topics

• The significance of every movement, big or small, towards growth

• How doing something scared is better than not acting at all

• The concept of awareness as bumpers or rumble strips in life

• Daryl’s perspective on the importance of not being obligated to stay the same

• The idea that growth is a daily choice and practice

• Moving from static states to dynamic transformation

• How understanding your Enneagram type can support healthy change

• Practical tips for living intentionally and choosing transformation over habits of the past

• The role of boundaries, self-validation, and mindful pausing in personal development

Connect with Michelle

Michelle@coremotivationscoach.com

instagram.com/coremotivations_coach

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Pastor Daryl Black

https://www.instagram.com/mrdarylblack/

Time stamps

00:00-Welcome and episode overview

00:31 - Reflection on the past year of growth and change
01:01 - Every moment and movement counts in transformation
01:35 - The marathon of self-improvement, not a sprint
02:05 - Doing something scared beats inaction
02:33 - Personal best practices based on Enneagram types
02:41 - The concept of clean giving and self-awareness
03:10 - The importance of knowing and respecting your needs
03:47 - Pausing, checking in, and self-awareness as bumper strips
04:16 - How awareness acts as life's rumble strips
04:46 - Daryl’s perspective on growth and transformation

05:15 - The message that your past doesn’t define your future
05:45 - The significance of choosing to grow daily
06:14 - Embracing new permissions and the power of decision
06:27 - Letting go of yesterday and focusing on who you are becoming
06:58 - Growth as a daily decision and practice
07:28 - Moving from static to dynamic transformation
07:58 - Are you living in the past or stepping into your future?
08:27 - The difference between fixed states and evolving paths
08:56 - Questioning whether you let yesterday decide your future
09:24 - Final thoughts on transformation and personal choice
09:54 - Disclaimer: Professional advice and resource recommendations
10:22 - How to connect with Michelle and support the podcast
11:16 - Closing encouragement and encouragement to stay rooted in growth